Neurodiversity-affirming support for autistic women and highly sensitive adults seeking clarity, understanding, and next steps
Supportive, Neurodiversity-Affirming Autism Assessments
with Julie Bjelland, LMFT
A neurodiversity-affirming, culturally affirming, lived-experience-centered approach designed to help you be accurately seen and understood.
Why an Autism Assessment Can Be Meaningful
For many adults, especially women and high-masking individuals, seeking an autism assessment is about understanding yourself and your needs more fully, which often leads to greater self-compassion.
A thoughtful, neurodiversity-affirming autism assessment can help explain lifelong patterns that may have felt confusing, overwhelming, or painful. Many people seek assessment after years of feeling misunderstood, burnt out, or like they have been working too hard to fit into a world that never quite fit them.
Learning that you are autistic often brings a deep sense of relief and validation. Many people describe these as the most consistent emotional responses after diagnosis, not because life suddenly becomes easy, but because their lived experience is finally seen and named. Years of self-doubt, confusion, and self-blame often soften when there is a clear understanding of how their nervous system works. Instead of asking “What’s wrong with me?” many people begin asking “What do I need?”
An assessment can also help guide more appropriate and supportive care. Traditional therapy approaches do not always align with autistic ways of processing, sensing, and relating. Understanding your neurotype allows therapy, self-care, work accommodations, and life choices to be shaped in ways that truly support your well-being rather than working against it.
For many people, assessment also supports identity and belonging. While self-identification is valid and respected within the autistic community, some individuals want a deeper sense of certainty before fully embracing that identity or entering autistic spaces. A formal assessment can provide that grounding. It can help you feel secure in knowing that you belong, that your experiences are real and valid, and that your way of being is shared by others.
Ultimately, an autism assessment is not about proving anything. It is about self-understanding, self-permission, and moving through the world with greater ease, clarity, and kindness toward yourself. ❤️
You deserve understanding that feels affirming, respectful, and deeply attuned to who you are.
Adult Autism Assessment Details
This assessment includes two parts.
Part 1: Written Intake and Questionnaire
Before our live session, you will complete an intake form and in-depth questionnaire. This allows you to share your lived experience, history, patterns, strengths, challenges in written form, at your own pace. I review this carefully in advance of our time together.
Part 2: Live Video Assessment
Part 2 is a 90-minute live clinical interview conducted via video and includes a guided and collaborative conversation, a short break, and a discussion of my impressions with time for initial questions. We will expand on what you shared in writing and explore anything that feels complex, unclear, or nuanced.
📍 California Address Required
A California address is required on your intake form due to licensing. You do not need to live in California. A temporary address, such as a hotel, is acceptable.
This is a compassionate, interview-based assessment designed especially for sensitive, internal processors and high-masking adults, particularly women.
👉 Includes pre-review of intake forms and questionnaire, an in-depth discussion of your lived experience, and, when appropriate, a one-page diagnostic letter.
🔽 What to Expect
Many people feel more at ease when they know what to expect ahead of time.
🔽 Why My Approach Is Different
Traditional autism assessment tools such as ADOS-2, ADI-R, AQ, RAADS-R, and SRS-2 were not designed to capture internal experiences or high levels of masking, and often under-identify autism in high-masking adults, particularly women. My approach focuses on your inner world, not just observable behavior. If you’d like to learn more about why I don’t use these assessment tools, click here.
🔽 Privacy & Confidentiality
All autism assessments are private and confidential. No information is shared with insurance or agencies.
🔽 Optional: Adult Autism Consultation
Not ready for a formal assessment? Consultations (50 or 75 minutes) offer a gentle way to explore your traits and self-understanding before deciding on a diagnosis.
🌍 Available worldwide via video, audio, or text chat. Schedule Here
💛 You’re Not Alone
Many sensitive, high-masking autistic adults have been misidentified or misunderstood.
My goal is to help you feel seen, validated, and empowered as you understand your true neurotype. ❤️
Ready to Schedule Assessment?
If you have any questions about the process, please don't hesitate to contact us here. Every part of this process is designed to be validating, empowering, and affirming of your unique experience.
This Is More Than a Diagnosis
“Getting diagnosed as an adult was one of the most freeing and healing experiences of my life. It helped me understand myself in a way I never could before, and allowed me to release years of self-judgment and replace it with self-compassion.”
I hear over and over again how validating and transformative it is to finally have language for what you've felt your whole life. You are not alone, and you deserve clarity, understanding, and support.
This is a path to reclaim your story—and begin showing up for yourself with gentleness and truth. Whether you're beginning to explore or ready to confirm, I’m here to walk beside you.
🌱 General Consultations for the Sensitive and Neurodivergent
For Individuals
Receive supportive guidance to help you navigate life as a sensitive or neurodivergent person. Together, we can explore whatever feels most important to you.
For Practitioners
If you’re a therapist, coach, or provider working with sensitive or neurodivergent clients, I offer consultation to help you deepen your understanding and develop affirming strategies.
Some beautiful words from clients…
“Julie, I can’t even put into words how much your support has meant to me. This has been incredibly helpful and validating.” – E.G., California
“I’ve made so much progress in understanding myself and feeling empowered since working with you. It’s truly transformative.” – M.T., United Kingdom
“I came into our session feeling lost, and in just one conversation, I gained the clarity I needed to move forward with confidence.” – C.W., Texas
“This experience has been life-changing. Talking with you has given me insights, validation, and tools that I wish I had found sooner.” – L.D., Germany
Frequently Asked Questions
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Consultations are supportive, exploratory sessions that may focus on questions, patterns, next steps, or guidance. An assessment is a structured clinical evaluation intended to clarify autism identification and, when appropriate, provide formal diagnostic documentation.
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If you are unsure whether a consultation or an assessment is the best fit, you are welcome to start with a consultation. Together, we can explore your goals and determine next steps.
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Autism assessments and consultations with me are completely private and for your personal understanding, validation, and self-awareness.
No information is reported to outside parties, agencies, or insurance companies. Your results are yours to keep and can be shared only at your discretion.
This is a safe space.
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Please use headphones or a separate microphone (not the computer mic) for the best audio quality for our sensitive ears.
Please turn off all notifications on your phone and devices before the session begins so we can focus best.
You’ll want to be alone in a private place for these sessions, free from distractions and interruptions.
It’s good to have paper and a pen to take notes on.
For consultations, I recommend thinking about what you want to achieve in this session. Have questions written out ahead to make the best use of your time.
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Yes! During the sign-up process, you can set up any number of recurring sessions, which is a good idea to hold specific time slots for you.
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Payment & Cancellation Policy
We accept payments via credit card or PayPal. If needed, Zelle or Venmo may also be an option—please contact us in advance to arrange alternative payment.
Payment is collected at the time of booking to secure your appointment and reserve the time specifically for you.
If you need to cancel your appointment, please provide at least 48 hours’ notice:
Cancellations with 48 hours’ notice will receive a refund, minus a $50 fee to cover credit card processing and administrative costs.
Cancellations with less than 48 hours’ notice will receive a 50% refund, as this time has been held especially for you and may not be able to be offered to someone else on short notice.
You are always welcome to reschedule your appointment at no additional cost, as long as the change is made at least 48 hours in advance.
If you have any questions or need assistance with scheduling, feel free to reach out—we’re happy to help.
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If you don’t see a time that works, please reach out to us here and let us know your preferred days/times, and we can see if we can find something that works.
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We will use Zoom Video for assessments. If you book consultations, you can use an audio-only, video, or live written chat session. If you live in the United States and want to do audio-only, we can also talk by phone for consultation sessions. If we work together via Zoom, you will be sent a unique link by email. If you have never used Zoom before, please watch the video below and arrive early to get set up.
About Autism Assessments
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Many widely used autism measures were built and normed mostly on a small sample of white boys. They focus on what a clinician can see during brief, structured tasks or checklists and miss how autism often presents in women and high maskers.
Why these methods miss high masking women
Women are socialized to be pleasing, empathic, and adaptable, so many learn scripts, force eye contact, and copy peers to fit in.
Masking reduces observable traits during appointments, which can drop scores below diagnostic cutoffs.
The ADI-R relies on caregiver recall from early childhood. Caregivers often do not know what is underneath the mask or the cost of masking, so crucial history goes unrecognized.
Special interests that look socially acceptable and subtle, like deep interest in psychology and human behavior, or more subtle stimming, are overlooked or dismissed.
These tools measure external behavior, not the internal experience or the energy cost required to appear typical.
What these methods get wrong
Treat empathy, friendships, or imaginative play as evidence against autism.
Reframe masking as only social anxiety instead of a core autistic survival strategy.
Label shutdowns as avoidance or choice.
Dismiss sensory sensitivities as not significant, even when they shape daily life.
Attribute burnout and job loss only to anxiety or trauma, ignoring autistic burnout.
Why this is harmful
Being told you are not autistic enough or not severe enough is invalidating and traumatizing.
Delayed or denied diagnosis blocks access to language, accommodations, and care.
Ongoing masking without recognition increases burnout, health problems, and hopelessness.
Countless women told they are not autistic using these tools are, in fact, autistic.
Choose clinicians who look under the mask
Seek neurodiversity affirming clinicians trained to identify what is under the mask.
Look for assessment styles that explore the true lived experience and the internal world, not only scores.
Ask how they evaluate masking, sensory load, shutdowns, and the energy cost of socializing.
Ensure they consider culture, race, and queerness, since older models were not built for this diversity.
Prefer clinicians who welcome narrative interviews, self-reports, and do not require childhood informants.
My approach
I do not use ADOS, ADI-R, AQ, or RAADS-R.
I center lived experience across the lifespan, including exploring your internal world, under the mask.
As a woman identified as autistic later in life, I have researched this for years and understand the lived experience of social conditioning to mask.
I provide a validating, neurodiversity-affirming approach. scription
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The autism assessment includes a 90-minute live clinical interview (with a short break) that includes both the assessment interview and discussion of findings. In addition, I spend approximately 90 minutes reviewing questionnaires and developmental history in advance and preparing a written diagnostic summary or letter when indicated.
Clients are also asked to complete pre-assessment questionnaires. These responses help ensure our time together is focused, thoughtful, and tailored to you.
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If an autism diagnosis is made, clients receive a written letter of diagnosis that may be shared when requesting accommodations. Requirements for documentation, however, vary by institution.
In some cases, universities, disability services offices, or government agencies may require a formal neuropsychological assessment with comprehensive testing and a detailed written report. Because requirements differ, it is important for clients to confirm in advance what documentation is needed by the specific institution or agency they are working with.
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Why This Assessment Is More Accessible—and Still Thorough
Most private adult autism assessments in California range from $5,000 to $10,000, largely due to extensive work done outside of sessions, including scoring standardized measures and writing detailed reports. These assessments often follow a clinical model that may not fully capture the nuanced experiences of sensitive or late-identified autistic adults.
In contrast, my assessment process is offered at a lower cost for a single comprehensive session (90 minutes in total). This includes exploration, integration, and reflection—with a built-in break and space for emotional processing. The cost remains accessible by streamlining the process and focusing on collaborative, conversational assessment rather than lengthy written reports.
Instead of standardized testing (often not accurately reflecting the lived experience of adult-diagnosed autism), I rely on in-depth, guided dialogue tailored to your lived experience. While no formal written report is provided, you may request a simple letter stating the outcome of the assessment if needed.
This approach not only saves you thousands of dollars—it also fosters a more human, validating, and accurate process. By creating a space where you feel emotionally safe, seen, and respected, we’re able to gather richer insights. This model is especially supportive for those with sensitive nervous systems or a history of masking, and it often results in a more accurate identification of autism in adults.
Making this kind of assessment more affordable, affirming, and accessible is deeply important to me.
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If you are seeking an assessment for personal understanding, self-clarity, or identity exploration, a comprehensive clinical assessment with a written letter of diagnosis is often sufficient. Many clients have also been able to use a diagnostic letter when requesting accommodations in workplaces or educational settings.
However, documentation requirements vary by institution. In some situations, disability services offices, or government agencies may require a formal neuropsychological assessment, additional standardized testing, or documentation from a medical provider in order to approve accommodations or services. For this reason, it is important to check in advance to determine what documentation is required.
If you are unsure, I encourage you to contact the relevant organization directly to clarify their specific requirements.
Questions? Contact us here